Hi Reader,
Years ago, a child told me that I had “imprisoned” him and his dad in their kitchen.
I didn't, of course—but years later, I still think about why that session felt that way to him.
I had gone in with the best intentions. We were creating a plan to help him build independence around everyday responsibilities, and I became so focused on leaving the family with something tangible that I missed what was happening right in front of me.
He was tired.
He was pacing.
He was becoming increasingly agitated.
And I kept going.
Looking back, one of my biggest lessons is that sometimes we become so focused on the goal that we stop focusing on the person.
In this month's Koi Wellness conversation, Elly and I revisit my original Lessons from the Kitchen story and talk about what I would do differently today—
Including power struggles, good intentions versus impact, repairing relationships, knowing when to drop an expectation, and why there isn't one perfect strategy that works every time.
If you've had your own “kitchen moment” lately, I hope this conversation reminds you that getting an interaction wrong doesn't have to be the end of the story.
We can reflect, get curious, repair, and try again.
Upcoming Floortime Course: 🗣️ I'm also excited to share that I'll be teaching a Floortime course starting November 2nd, from 7–9 PM PT!
If you're interested in learning more, you can find the course details and registration information here.
Warmly,
Aya Porté
Occupational Therapist & Founder, Koi Wellness
